As I was thinking through my review of the book, Messy Grace, I received a text from my wife that a dear friend is planning a wedding at the end of this month; a same-gender wedding. Hearing the news came as a bit of a shock, but also a reminder that the issue of same-gender relationships and marriages is not going away.
In his book, Caleb Kaltenbach shares his story of growing up with gay parents. He tells of his memories of growing up splitting time between mom and dad (as most kids of divorced families have to do). What makes his situation somewhat unique is that the time spent with his mom also involved spending time with Vera, his mother’s partner. Kaltenbach didn’t find out until college that his father was also gay.
The author writes about how his parents responded to people who were opposed to and in favor of the homosexual lifestyle. He tells some not so flattering stories of how “church people” spoke in very unkind ways to his mom and her friends. His mom took him to several events and he had a very close interaction with that particular LGBT.
In the book Kaltenbach shares scriptures and his unique insights into how the church can respond and live out the title of the book, Messy Grace. While there aren’t easy answers to this issue, Kaltenbach speaks with one who has unique insight that most of us don’t have.
While I think this is an important issue that the church is still wrestling with, I found this book to be somewhat of a harder read than I expected. It didn’t engage me as much as I thought it might. Despite that issue, I think this book can be a good tool for those who need some direction in how to show this Messy Grace,