You Pick: Your Car or Your Phone

iPhoneLast night I attended an area all-star game where my daughter was one of the players. The crowd was mostly made up of parents, siblings and friends. At the end of the game, a group of high school students to my right were exiting the stands and one of the teen age girls dropped her phone. There was a sudden silence that seemed to grip that area of the gym as all the students paused to see if the phone was damaged. You could almost hear a collective sigh of relief when she picked up the phone and found no cracks. That little event reminded me of an article I received via email last week.

Tim Elmore cited two different sources that showed the importance of cell phones to adolescents. Now I must admit I have been accused of being overly attached to my phone at times, but I found this information to be interesting.

Here’s some of what he shared:

According to recent Pew Research, adolescents put technology in the same category as air and water. They feel they need it to live their lives. In fact, they would rather give up their pinky finger than their cell phone. I interpret this to mean they use their smart phone far more than they do their smallest finger. Incredible.

Furthermore, a study commissioned by a car-sharing company called Zipcar shows that nearly 40 percent of Millennials believe that losing their phone would be a bigger hardship than losing their automobile. They also believe it would be a greater tragedy (so to speak) than losing access to a desktop, laptop or a TV.

So, what would you give up before you let go of your phone?

Great Article for Prom Season

WNJThere is a very well written article in today’s Wilmington News-Journal by Pat Haley, who is a member of the Clinton County Commission. He recounts his experience of coming on the scene of an accident of a teenage girl. It is a good reminder to parents and teens, especially as we move into Prom season. I saw one or two people had posted the article to Facebook last night and, after reading his words, I can see why. A sobering reminder for teens, parents and all drivers on the road.

The warm May evening was slowly melting into the clear darkness of night as I headed home to Sabina from a busy day at the sheriff’s office. It would be good to be home.

The radio in the cruiser had been unusually quiet for the last hour or so, and maybe the frantic activity of the day was over.

Just as I entered the crossroads town of Reesville, the radio dispatcher broke the quiet with an urgent message: “There is a report of a Code 4, with serious injury, on State Route 72, about two miles south of 22 and 3 East. The Ohio State Highway Patrol and the life squad are en route,” the radio crackled with urgency.

I covered the last couple of miles quickly, arriving at the scene of the accident within 60 seconds of the radio broadcast. A small, blue car was smoking and leaning against a tree, with several feet of fence wrapped around it. One wheel was still spinning.

An elderly farmer was leaning into the car, quietly brushing the windshield glass away from the eyes of a young girl, lying injured on the front seat. I could see the relief in the farmer’s face when he saw my uniform.

The teenager looked to be about 16 or 17 years of age. It was apparent she had sustained a serious head injury.

Lowering myself into the front seat of the car, the farmer pulled himself clear and gladly changed places with me, but remaining nearby. I moved across the seat and gently placed the head of the young girl on a towel.

As I began talking to her, I soon found myself asking the hopeful question I had often heard asked at the scene of many accidents: “Are you OK?”

She didn’t answer. The ashen color in her face told me she was in very serious condition.

With one hand, I carefully wiped the shreds of glass from her face. As I gazed down upon the young girl, I could see the deep brown eyes that were the centerpiece of her pretty face. The two sounds occurred almost simultaneously; the slow, lazy, moan of a siren in the distance, and a soft, gentle murmur from the girl.

She had scarcely uttered the sounds, when I saw she was beginning to slip away. She opened her eyes and I felt a ray of hope. I want to think perhaps in those precious moments of her life, my face might have become a composite of her mother, her dad and maybe a younger brother still at home.

I spoke to her in a gentle, caring tone and quietly reassured her. We both knew it was too late.

A few seconds after intoning those words, the young girl who had just celebrated her last day of school for the year, began to lose consciousness. Her labored breathing began to lower the veil between life and death. She directed one last gaze at me. With time so short, there was nothing more that could be done other than to make her comfortable.

The young girl gently closed her eyes and our focus shifted from her earthly body to her spirit.

I could hear the farmer gently crying above me as I carefully lowered the young girl’s head down onto the seat of the car.

The sirens we had heard in the distance had arrived too late.

The farmer and I gazed quietly at one another for a moment, each with a heavy heart and moistened eyes. Slowly, I began to walk back to the cruiser.

My mind slowly shifted to the impending duty most dreaded by law enforcement: the delivery of a death notice to the family. How does one tell someone his or her loved one was never coming home again?
Several years before, I had arrived at a farmhouse to deliver a death notice at about 6:30 in the morning. At that time, the victim was a family’s 17-year-old son.

“Why don’t you go in?” another deputy asked me.

“I want them to have one more hour of peaceful sleep,” I told the deputy. “It may be the last peaceful night’s sleep they have for the rest of their lives.”

Spring is a time of rebirth and renewal. I share these sad experiences for I know this is also the approaching time for high school proms. Throughout April and May, young men in rented tuxedos appear along with beautiful young girls dressed in gowns with flowers.
My wish for each of them is to have fun. My prayer for each of them is to be safe. It is a time for making wonderful lifelong memories.

Please don’t end-up like the young man, or the young woman on 72.

Hit BY a Deer

deer_signsOk, so a weird thing happened last night as I was on my way home from practice. Since we live in an area where we see deer on a regular basis, I try to keep my eyes peeled for them. (Especially where they put up those crazy deer crossing signs.)

Anyway, I wasn’t too far from home and was coming through an area where we have seen deer. As I’m driving, I see movement to my left and see a deer come running across the road. I slowed down a little bit to let it pass in front of me. No problem. However, right behind that first deer was a second deer. Unlike me, it was not able to slow down and actually ran into my car. I was hit BY a deer, rather than the other way around.

The road I was on didn’t have a good place to stop, so I continued the final minutes home. When I pulled in the driveway, I looked at the car and didn’t see any damage. The deer wasn’t that big and I think hit my car and then ran off. It was kind of surreal explaining that I didn’t hit a deer, but rather was hit BY a deer.

I know there are other more exciting stories out there, but it was an interesting way to end the day.